It’s rightly said that the past that has gone will never come back. So why spoil your present life for something which is not a part of it? In your relationships, it’s very important to live and enjoy every moment, or else you can never be content with what you have.
Most of us would have had some past relationships that we can’t forget, but that does not mean you let it be a part of your present life. By doing so, you are inviting trouble for your present relationship because your past can have some elements, which may become a hindrance for your present happiness. I have mentioned some important areas where mixing up your past and present can be really bad for your relationship.
Stop fantasizing about your ex-lover: Many individuals have this habit of thinking about their ex boyfriend or girlfriend while having sex, but will this help you getting them back? No. So it’s mere foolishness dreaming about them when you have another partner who can please you sexually! It’s better to enjoy the intimate moments with your present mate.
Never compare your partner with your ex: Your previous partner might have been a lovely companion, great in bed and fun to be with, but it’s not a great thing to compare them with your present partner. By doing this, you not only make your partner feel inferior and inadequate but also show that you liked your ex much more. Remember that no one likes to be compared and especially when it’s about a love relationship, everyone wants to be loved in a unique way.
Avoid narrating stories of your past affair: This is quite a common tendency in many people who would often use the past incidents of their life as referral points whenever there is anything good or bad in their present life. What a lame thing to do. Mentioning things from your past would only make your partner feel bad and put them in an awkward spot. So refrain from singing the tunes of your past love life and avoid irritating your partner.
Do not think about your ex all the time: Quite often, you pretend in front of your wife or husband that you are completely out of your past relationship. But somewhere in your heart, you still keep thinking about him/her all the time and the time you spent together. This would only isolate you from your partner, as sooner or later they would sense that you still have some strings attached with your past love life.
Throw away the memories of your past: Photo albums, videos, gifts, cards etc., are some of the common things that do not allow you to detach yourself from your past life. No matter how hard you try, you just cannot get over those old memories. In such situations, you fail to value the attention and gifts that your current partner gives you. So, it’s suggested that you simply erase all the memories of your past and do not keep any materialistic things with you, which might take you back to those painful days.
Remember, letting your past come in way of your present relationship will only make you unhappy and create problems between you and your partner. So it’s wise to forget the bygone and live in present and make a better future.