An ideal marriage would be one that includes a balance between mind, spirit and body. But, which of these components truly anchors a marriage through “better or worse”? It is my belief that sex and passion can be part of any relationship and are therefore pretty easy to attain. Everything else requires a certain depth of intimacy and commitment to the partnership. When the physical component is missing or troubled for whatever reason, it is even more important for the other sustaining elements to be present.
As we grow older, our bodies change – but so do our notions about romantic and sexual love. So in their young married years, couples need to recognize the importance of becoming one another’s dearest friend, of building interests together and stimulating each other intellectually, because a couple’s sex life is likely to fizzle out long before their love for one another. And if that is done successfully, people will realize that life holds few joys more satisfying than the process of growing old with your life partner.
It’s All about Intimacy: – Sex is very important to a marriage. Just ask the one out of every three spouses who’s in a marriage where there’s a sexual desire gap. That is, one spouse is desperately unhappy because this person isn’t having sex nearly as often as he or she would like, and the other wonders, “What’s the big deal? It’s just sex.” But for the spouse yearning for more touch, it is a big deal. Sex isn’t just a physical release, it’s about feeling wanted, connected and loved.
When this sort of misunderstanding occurs, intimacy on all levels fades. Couples stop spending time together, snuggling on the couch, engaging in meaningful conversation, laughing at each other’s jokes. Friendship is replaced by resentment, hostility and a painful distancing. This puts marriages at risk of infidelity and/or divorce. But the good news is that regardless of the reasons for a sexual meltdown – whether it’s due to biological, personal or relationship issues – excellent help is available. Anyone wanting a more robust and passionate love life can have it.