Our culture transmits a grossly distorted and limited definition of “attraction,” viewing it primarily at a physical and sexual level. We talk about “chemistry” and “butterflies” and use these qualities as barometers for how “in love” we are. When asked what qualities you want in a partner, the first thing people often emphasize is the physical attraction.
What’s left when the glimmer and sizzle of the infatuation stage fizzle, as they inevitably will? If you chose your partner primarily for his or her physical attributes and there isn’t a strong foundation of friendship and real attraction, the relationship will likely fall apart. That’s when people often flock to the internet, where they typically find articles that espouse the cultural myth that “doubt means don’t” and “if you’re not attracted it’s time to leave.”
Instead, here are a few things to ask yourself which will help reconnect you with your spouse or partner both emotionally and physically.
- Are you still spending enough time together?
- Are you open to couple therapy?
- Do you make an effort to engage in romantic activities with your spouse/partner?
- Have you talked with your partner about the things that turn you?
- What are the things that you appreciate about your partner?
- Do you compliment your partner often enough?
Thinking about these things and taking the appropriate actions will go a long way to opening or rather re-opening the doors to emotional and physical intimacy.
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How to Feel Attracted (Again) to Your Spouse