Is sexual compatibility something you work on? Or is something two people either have or don’t have?
There’s a commonly held belief that sexual chemistry is something that simply “clicks” and that If you don’t have it…don’t try to force it.
Psychologists have coined this as “sexual destiny beliefs” and there are studies that say this kind of thinking might be ruining your sex life.
Partners who believe in sexual destiny were less likely to work on improving sexual relations with their partner, less open to trying new things with a “non-compatible” partner, and less satisfied with sex overall.
Those who adopted a growth mindset, on the other hand, were more likely to compromise and try new things, leading to overall increased sexual satisfaction.
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Believing in Sexual Compatibility Can Sour Your Sex Life